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jt1693

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Read the Claire Weekes books, with facing I know that means doing the things even with the anxiety feelings there. Question is, how to get into the mindset/attitude that I just do not care about those feelings. When the feelings get stronger, I've recently started mentally urging them to get worse, and often reminding myself that the feelings never have nor could ever harm me. Even though currently the feelings I still find quite irritating, will mentally urging them on help to eventually establish a solid careless attitude towards them? Thanks for any helpful responses in advance.
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If your fearing the feelings then yes asking them to get worse is sending the right signals to your brain that there is nothing to fear. And in time they will stop because you're no longer giving them a fearful response ... this is not something that you can do one or two times it has to be done over and over again until your brain believes that there is no fear and then it'll eventually all stop...
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Nice answer Debby
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Recently went through a tense situation and felt a strong wave of anxious feelings. I was aware of a few thoughts that no doubt added a decent amount of apprehension, but I did my best to not cringe from the feelings, as strong as they were. Mentally told them to go ahead and get worse. They only built up so much and stayed at that level until the situation was resolved, but I stuck it out, despite feeling quite anxious.
I believe this was the correct way of going through?
Sometimes in the past, I've made an effort to mentally make it worse and the feelings just continue on, but I guess it takes time for challenging thoughts to actually bring on a true attitude change and then actually have steady affect on the anxiety.
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Yes that's the approach to take when apprehensive. Stick it out until it resolves. Try to avoid adding secondary fear or analysis. Apprehension just is. It's normal to have it. It's just when we try to stop it from fear of it that we get stuck inside it.
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Trying to just go out with all the anxiety feelings there and surrender to them and not fight. This seems to often make me feel rather tired, is that the case with others? Still not to the point where it's 100% accepting I think.
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Don't expect immediate cure. It takes practice to change your past anxious habits. There is no controlling fear. There is only accepting it if you cannnot resolve it.
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I find it relatively easy to accept those physical feelings that are not so visibly obvious to other people, for instance the tight chest and dizziness. I do struggle with those feelings that are visible to others,in particular intense blushing and sweating. A classic example occurred to me at work 2 weeks ago when a person I admire and respect engaged me in a work related conversation. I was aware of my very red face but just thought to myself ' accept..accept'. Sadly the other person suddenly looked up at me with a puzzled look on their face, stammered slightly and brought the conversation to a rapid conclusion, turned on their heel and walked off. I felt absolutely terrible.I felt so guilty that I was making this person feel so uncomfortable because of my physical appearance.
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Often when I face doing things with my steady anxiety, the feelings don't change and sometimes get slightly worse. I don't get panic attacks and urging a general level anxiety to get worse really does nothing. Guess it's just a matter of continuously doing everything with the feelings present and not allow them to limit my actions.
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Jt1693, I totally get what you are saying. I also get tired after facing and accepting on a heavy anxiety day. Maybe even though we are facing, we are still going through the feelings and it can wear me out. Also, I find it easier when the anxiety is caused by a situation. Because riding it out to the conclusion of the situation is easier than when it's there all day for no reason. I ride it out and try to accept but when it's a full day of it, second fear with the questioning is a lot harder.
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