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My daughter is currently suffering 2-3 panic attacks a day at school. Initially the school were supportive, allowing her to leave lessons etc, but 6 weeks on they have turned into unqualified medical professionals telling me I should take her to the GP as she is 'not normal' and there is 'something wrong with her'. I previously visited our GP doctor when something similar happened two year's ago. Thankfully, as an actual qualified medical professional, she was very considered and balanced. She spoke with my daughter at length and concluded that she did not believe that there was anything wrong with her, that it was more to do with what had happened to her. A number of incidents with her father, who left when she was 4, and his new wife had been very traumatic for her. Much to my approval, she advised us to avoid any routes which might end up with her having a label as ultimately this not serve any purpose other than to make other people more comfortable. Since then, the contact with her father has been re-arranged, she saw a child councilor to talk about the incidents, and she moved up to a new school. She is happy at her new school, has made friends and had been doing okay. However, these panic attacks have started at school only. She worries about getting something wrong and being judged for it (not unlike the trauma she suffered). Now they have started, she is seems to be in the vicious circle that I have been reading about here; that the panic attacks now form from the fear of having another panic attack. Whilst I now feel I have a better understanding of what is happening from the research that I have done, and believe that it is within her power to turn things around based on the success stories here, I am struggling to convey that to her. I have tried to talk her through what I've learnt, printed out things for her to read and bought her a few of the books recommend here, but I don't seem to be able to trigger that button that makes her want to do this for herself. Ultimately the school will exclude her, or try and force a solution which will not serve her if we are not able to turn things around. If anyone here has anything they can share which they think might help I would be really interested to read your thoughts. many thanks
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Your daughter seems to not be interested in losing these panic attacks. Panic is an extreme form of worrying and yes they usually are maintained by worry of having another panic attack, now considered a threat. But short of medications it's your daughter who had to want to face her fear in order to lose her fear. Also if these "incidents" with the father were traumatic she might need therapy as she may have developed a PTSD.
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You're a good mother... my family never helped me at ALL. I hope she appreciates it.