Travis88
So I’m going see my girlfriend on a two hour flight in a couple of days. I’m worried about the flight and the trip. I feel like I’m not ready, but I really don’t want to cancel. The sensitization has been bad all day at work and I just feel like screaming. I know I’m not accepting. I’m worried about the flight that I’m going to panic, but I have to go. I want to go. Just don’t know if I’m ready.
Quote
SamiT1601
I’m the same although I’m not going until November. My family are taking me and my daughter to Florida from the UK. A long flight of 9 hours. It’s meant to be a holiday of a lifetime and I am already anxious about traveling.
Sami 
Quote
Travis88
Good luck with that Sami.  You will be ok. You have plenty of time to practice acceptance until then.  
Quote
jeff
Travis

Apprehension about a future event isn't going to go away. But you can lessen its bite by not following its discourse. Just don't try to analyze, figure out or try to prevent it. The apprehensive fear will arise whenever you are reminded of it. Just tell yourself it's apprehension from past fear habits and there is nothing you can do about it right now except ignore it - then move on with your day. When the time comes you face your fear and then you learn that the apprehension was a stupid waste of emotion. Then you learn that next time it will have less of a bite.
Quote
Travis88
Thanks for the great advice as always Jeff.
Quote
Travis88
Made my flight fine with no medicine or anything. It felt pretty horrible. But I made it. My heart rate was sky high the whole time. I’m not letting this run my life. I might not have acceptance down yet but I’m doing whatever my brain tells me not to when it comes to fear. One day I will be able to accept.
Quote
jeff
So your heart rate was sky high. Was your consciousness of this the cause for your feeling "pretty horrible?" Were you trying to stop it, control it, prevent it the whole time? Or did you practice ignoring it. Did you ever just say "so what if my heart rate is high. I can take it. The doctor said my heart is ok. There is nothing wrong with me except for this current nervous tension due to my apprehension. I will just accept that it is there and think about something else. Maybe I'll learn relaxation and breathing techniques to calm myself when I feel anxious!"
Quote
Travis88
Thanks Jeff. The heart rate didn’t bother its just the dreadful thoughts and feeling. And the fact I beat myself up because I’m having these thoughts. Oh and I thought breathing techniques are a way of avoidance? But I’m prob wrong
Quote
Bob
The important thing is you took the flight. You did not permit the apprehension to stop you. Think about it. Is it the flight or your thoughts about it that coasted your anxiety?
Quote
Travis88
Thanks Bob. It’s the thoughts. It’s always the thoughts. That’s what I struggle with the most.
Quote
jeff
It’s not really the thoughts. It’s what you think ABOUT the thoughts as “being maybe what’s wrong with me?” You can have a thought such as: people die in airplane crashes. That thought alone is informational. But then you analyze the thought to see if it is some sign or confirmed or if you should be worried about the thought, THEN the icing on the analysis cake: what if I will get anxious?
So it’s not the thought but the follow up. That’s where you practice letting it happen, giving up/not continuing with your analysis. And seeing how this irrational thought progression leads you into feeling misery. Thoughts without the misery of the anxious reaction is your goal. Understanding it is a big part of reaching the goal.
Quote
Lee
I am mostly panic free these days and I fly a lot and I also have a fear of flying. 

I'm not afraid of the plane, I know it won't crash. 

I am afraid of having one of those 10/10 level panic attacks, embarrassing myself, freaking out the passengers, and causing a disruption. 

I haven't had what I would consider a bad panic attack since 2005 by the way. 

I always instruct the flight attendant that I am a panicky flyer. I really shouldn't, probably, it is safety behaviour. I should really face and "so what" it. 

The flights are always super pleasant by the way. I listen to podcasts, and I have cocktails and then I am another amazing place. 
Quote
Travis88
Thanks guys for everything. I am not afraid of the flight or even dying. I’m afraid of losing control and freaking out in front of people. I know it sounds silly, but it’s what I fear.
Quote
Bob
Those were my main fears.
Quote
Jonmike
That's a common fear.... very normal
Quote